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Posts Tagged ‘Vince Vaughn’

Ask The Eye You Are Never Quite Ready For What Life Delivers

April 22, 2014

Dear Eye View

I’ve been married just over two years, and if you had asked me two weeks ago I would’ve said my husband was near perfect. We’d been trying for almost a year to get pregnant, so I was over the moon to show him the positive test result. Then everything came crashing down when he asked me to take a paternity test for his “peace of mind.” I’ve never given him the slightest reason to doubt my fidelity (which he acknowledges) and he doesn’t have a history of being cheated on (although I am his first serious relationship). But he says he just can’t bond with our child until he knows for sure it’s his. I absolutely refuse to do a test during my pregnancy—there is a (very) small chance of miscarriage that I’m just not willing to take for a non-medical reason. He agreed to wait till the birth, but has now turned into a different person—distant and polite. I know that the next step is counseling, except I’m at the point that I’m not sure I even want to save the marriage. What sort of dad is he going to be if his love and trust for me is so conditional? Part of me is strongly tempted to say “You’re right, this child is not yours,” and just raise it myself. Am I overreacting?  Scared

Dear Scared

I understand your concern. There’s a strange mental disorder called Capgras delusion in which a person thinks a loved one has been replaced by an imposter. But you are actually living this—your husband has been replaced by a cold, hostile, accusatory lunatic. He doesn’t even have the excuse of having some kind of pregnancy-related hormonal disturbance. I don’t blame you for feeling, “Who is this stranger?” Your  husband is holding something back—like he has been told that he couldn’t have children. That is the only logical explanation for what he’s doing. He thinks he can’t be the father—so he was stunned when the pregnancy test was positive. On the other hand maybe he is going through a tough patch. Ask him to level with you.  Hope this helps

EV

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Ask The Eye Sheet Sniffer In Hotel No Tell Get The Picture

February 27, 2014

Dear Eye View

Last week my partner and I went for a much-needed and long-overdue stay at a bed and breakfast in Florida. The day before we left, while lying by the pool I saw the concierge/desk helper let himself into our room. Wondering why, I got up to check and found him wrapped up in our bed sheets and smelling a pillow. I got angry, and he started crying and said we were an attractive couple and that he “just wanted to feel alive again.” It was awkward and embarrassing, and he said he would never do it again, so I just let it drop and didn’t tell my partner or the proprietor about this. I figured the sheets are their property, and I’d think it was just weird or kind of funny had he just replaced the linens and done that in the laundry room, but in the room itself it felt like a gross violation of our privacy. Plus, if it had been a big chain hotel there’s no question I’d have marched straight to the manager’s office. Should I have told anyone? Wondering

Dear W

I understand your concern. Putting aside the fact that you stumbled upon this scene and did not think this was odd enough to  bring this up in a normal conversation with your partner or proprietor. I am surprised you were able to let it drop knowing your were dealing  with a hotel employee with a serious fetish and a key to your room. We can deal with that in another column. Yes you should have told the manager.  If you ran a B&B, I assume you’d want to know if you had an employee who felt the aromas of the guests were a form of True Blood. Also not  only should you have been concerned about your hotel linens but the sheetrock as well. Get the picture?

Hope this helps

Eye View

 

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California Parents Wondering Who Will Swaddle This Baby?

April 30, 2013

Two California caregivers were arraigned last week on child abuse charges for swaddling seven babies so tightly that the children had trouble breathing. Now parents around the country are wondering whether they could be harming their own children by trying the age-old calming technique.

California parents wondering who will swaddle this baby..

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