Moody Eye View

Dear Eye View
I am a hormonal young woman and was craving an easy hookup, so I tempted fate (and horny dudes) on the Internet. Fate (and the dudes) took the bait, and of the hundreds of responses I received, one stood out because he accidentally attached a professional summary. I found out it was a man who works in my field, and is a fair number of years my senior. We met up; we hooked up; we became friends. He and I are both unmarried and unattached, but neither of us wants to move have a romantic relationship with each other. I have now begun to date closer to my age group, so I don’t want to share playtime with him anymore, but haven’t told him yet. Being entry-level in the field, I could really use a mentor and have excellent access to this guy. I really don’t want to exploit him or make him feel rejected or awkward, and I want to be as professional as possible to keep suspicions of “secret lovers” at bay. Two questions: 1) Is it OK to pursue his help with my career, maybe in a formal informational interview or by asking for introductions? And 2) How do I go about this tactfully? Connect with him on LinkedIn and send a formal email to his work address?

—Babe in Bossland

Dear Babe
I understand your concern. Based on the way you are describing your career goals you are interested in going from your currently unpaid to paid intern status. You are attempting this with the ol’ hook-up,lay-off, Linkedin relationship. Be aware this is very advanced and can create a difficult professional endorsement of your skills and expertise from the dudes. Just make sure your relationship does not go from Hooked-Up,Laid-off,Linkedin,Pissed-off. Hope this helps.
EV