Moody Eye View

Dear Eye View

I have been mostly happily married for 25 years. My wife and I get along really well, and I love her very much. That being said, she is not the most affectionate person anymore. We used to cuddle a lot when we were first married and I have told her how much I miss it. She says he doesn’t enjoy it because it’s too hot. She’ll make an effort to snuggle while watching TV sometimes if I ask, but I can tell while we’re doing it that she is counting the minutes until he can stop. About a month ago, I was having a very bad day at work and a male co-worker/friend told me I looked like I could use a hug. Eyeview, I did need a hug and he gave me one and I started crying because I couldn’t remember the last time I had received nonsexual affection from someone without begging. My co-worker asked why I was crying and when I told him he said he loved his wife very much, but he wasn’t affectionate either and he knew exactly how I was feeling. Since that day we’ve been meeting in his or my office after work a couple of times a week to hug each other. And that’s all we do—there is no groping or kissing or even talking going on, we just hold each other for five to 10 minutes and then we go home. I like having a hug buddy and I’ve found my relationship with my wife is actually getting stronger because I am not so needy for affection from her. Of course, I have not told her about hugging my co-worker and I’m sure if I did she’d be upset, but I don’t feel like what I’m doing is cheating. Is it? Wondering

Dear Wondering

I understand your concern. Hug Buddies! Forget whether this is cheating, I see the possibility for a fantastic franchise opportunity ahead. Your wife’s excuse for not touching you is that it’s too hot. Unless you live in a tropical climate and the air-conditioner is broken,or you are grossly overweight this explanation is absurd. You don’t need to tell your wife about your hug buddy, although I think you need to let go of said buddy. Otherwise you may risk the chance of switching to the other side..

Hope this helps..

EV

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