Dear Eye View
My husband and I have been married for two years, and had a baby six weeks ago. I am a professional with a good job; my husband works in a small family business owned by his father. When we married, I kept my maiden name; when we chose our baby’s name, we agreed on a hyphenated last name. When the baby was born and my in-laws found out about the baby’s name, my husband was fired from his job (via telegram!). Last week he informed me that he had spoken with his father and got his job back, but he had told his father that we would change the baby’s name. While I understand his motivation, I cannot fathom living like this. I told him that I would not agree to continue to jump through hoops for his family, that I would not agree to the name change, that he couldn’t expect to be able to trick them indefinitely, and that someday they would learn that their grandchild has a hyphenated last name, so he’d better figure out how to get other employment. I also told him that they are no longer welcome in our house. Had I known from the start that the name would be such an issue, I would not have suggested hyphenating the name, but now that it’s done, I can’t imagine bowing down to their demands. My own family thinks I am wrong. What do you think?
I understand your concern. What I don’t understand, there are companies that use telegrams????? Hope this helps