Ask The Eye, Karma Can Be A Bitch

Dear Eye View,
I am 30 and recently moved to be near my parents, who have been married for 40 years. My father has a long history of infidelity, which my mother thinks is over. Almost a decade ago, she found out he was still having an affair with the woman who had worked for him in the 1980s. He had moved her across the country and gotten her an apartment near our house. My mom left my father for a couple of years, but last year they got back together, and they’ve moved to a remote part of the country and started over.

My father confessed to me last week that he was still seeing his longtime girlfriend. He tells my mother he’s taking a business trip or a “guy’s weekend.” He has no intention of telling my mother about her, but plans to see her for the rest of his life. He wants me to keep quiet about it.I don’t want to tell my mother—I really believe she thinks the affair is over. I don’t want to be involved in the details of my parents’ marriage, but my father shared this information with me. Is keeping his affair a secret from my mom deceptive? How do I handle him leading two lives, one of which is hurtful to my mother, whom I love dearly and don’t want to get hurt? Also, I am to be married soon and don’t know what to do..


Dear Confused

You have no control over your parents lives. There is no need to lie to your mother but there is also no need to rat out your dad. I am sure this would never happen in your marriage.. Hopefully Karma skips a generation. Good luck with your  marriage. Remember you  are a different person than your mom and hopefully  won’t pick out a man like dear old  dad… Marriage can be scary. So don’t stress out.. Also, remember… a moment on the lips forever on the hips.. Hope this helps.

Eye View

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