Dear Eye View
I am a freelance Web developer who was almost bankrupted by the economic collapse. A few years ago a client referred me to a friend who needed some search engine optimization. The friend operates an adult website. Adult websites make a lot of money but have trouble finding honest, competent help. One job turned into another, and working with adult websites has become a thriving business for me. My problem is that nobody knows I do this. My wife thinks that I design websites for local companies. I don’t work with sites that do anything illegal or that produce “desperation porn.” My clients are high-end, soft-core sites. I’m getting to a point where I can’t hide this anymore. I’m going to get a prestigious industry award, which means that an Internet search of my name will reveal the nature of my business. I also have had to hide profits in a secret mutual fund, because I don’t think my wife would believe that I make that much from designing websites for florists. I’ve wanted to walk away for a while, but the money has gotten us a lifestyle that we struggled to have for years. My wife doesn’t have to work anymore, our house is paid off, we have a college fund for the kids. I feel like I’m stuck between disappointing my family by turning off the money pump or having them find out that I work in the adult entertainment industry. I need advice.
I understand your concern.Your immediate problem is easy to solve. You thank the heads of your industry for their generous recognition, then you inform them that for personal reasons you must decline the award and ask that your name be deleted from the event. It is not a good idea to keep a separate bank account from your wife. Otherwise what could go wrong.
Hope this helps
Dear Eye View
For the past few months, my mom has been catfishing a guy online and I don’t know what to do. Earlier this year, I decided to give online dating a try and signed up for a free online dating site. My mom was very supportive and interested in me finding someone, and, unbeknownst to me, created a fake profile to scope out the site. I was perturbed when I found out, but I went along with it under the condition that she didn’t message anyone. She broke her promise and created an elaborate profile that mimicked my life (without using my name) and began talking to a few people. She ended up forming a friendship with one guy who was getting divorced who she felt sounded depressed. While pretending to be a 28-year-old woman, she offered him suggestions on how to fix his profile. I begged her to cut it off with him, but she hasn’t. In fact, she created several new profiles and pretended to be interested in him to help build his confidence. What really scares me is that he left a gift certificate for her to pick up at a local store, which I persuaded her not to use. I know this guy owns guns and I’m scared for her if he ever finds out she’s not who she’s pretending to be. She’s already seeing a psychiatrist for anxiety, so I don’t know what else I can do. My dad is aware of what she’s doing but he just brushes it off. Am I the crazy one for thinking this is a serious problem? My mom needs a new hobby, but she’s full of excuses for why she can’t work or volunteer somewhere because of her health.
Wildlife officials are trying to trap an otter today that they believe mauled an 8-year-old boy and his grandmother who came to his rescue. Officials believe Bryce Moser inadvertently got too close to the otter when he was swimming Thursday morning in the Pilchuck River, a swimming hole his family has been using for years. The boy’s grandmother, Lelani Grove, said she heard the screams of her grandson and then saw the horrible sight of an otter viciously attacking him. “I could see that it was biting into his head and it had its claws around him,” Grove told ABC News affiliate KOMO News. She jumped into action.“It just started biting on me and biting on me and it felt like little knives just going in,” Grove told the station. Grove added the otter was cute but a little freaky.
Presidential grand baby on board! Former First Lady and Secretary of State Hillary Clinton threw her pregnant daughter Chelsea Clinton a chic baby shower in Chappaqua, New York, on July 13, a source tells Us Weekly. Bill Clinton’s wife feted her daughter, 34, at upscale Crabtree Kittle House Inn, which is located near the Clinton’s estate. Chelsea, who is expecting her first child with husband Marc Mezvinsky, was also joined by close friends for the intimate gathering. According to New York Daily News, the menu was “99% gluten-free” and “Hillary was in rare form, laughing and talking to everyone.
I pressure washed my driveway yesterday.
People who regularly use social media sites like Facebook are more likely to divorce, new research suggests. A study produced by researchers from Boston University claims to have found “a correlation between using social network sites (like Facebook), spousal troubles, and the divorce rate.” Researchers surveyed 43 US states between 2008 and 2010, comparing the number of Facebook accounts in a state and dividing it by the total population to find ‘Facebook penetration’. The divorce rate for each state was then compared to Facebook penetration to see if any patterns emerged. The results showed a 2.18 per cent rise in the divorce rate of states which had a 20 per cent increase in the number of Facebook accounts. Google data provides support.
When most people hear the word “drone,” they probably think of killing machines that patrol war zones.Now a new kind of commercial drone phenomenon has taken off in the United States. People now use small quadcopter drones to even shoot photos and videos for their weddings.What seems like a stranger-than-fiction phenomenon is actually a new craze across the country. A congressman last month used a drone to record his own wedding and now is under investigation by the Federal Aviation Administration (FAA), the government agency that regulates the nation’s airspace, because the agency still has an explicit ban on drone flights for commercial purposes. An Iowa wedding photography company, Picture Perfect Portrait and Design, last week added aerial drone photography to its services to brides and grooms. It charges $400 for a 30-minute drone shoot. Shooting wedding photos and video using a drone has to date been very expensive, but new companies are jumping in to try to broaden the market. Aerial wedding photographs taken to the next level.
The First Lady wants to change the way you buy groceries. The goal is to steer consumers toward fruits and vegetables – and away from sugar- and fat-laden items. The plan is in line with “Michelle Obama’s stated second term agenda to ‘impact the nature of food in grocery stores. The feds now want to provide food-stamp shoppers with “incentives” for making healthy food choices – such as discounts or free movie tickets – and even talking shopping carts that will notify them when they’ve selected enough healthy items.The high-tech carts – which would cost every grocery store about $30,000 to provide – would be physically divided and color coded to help consumers select approved food items. It would also “have a system installed so that when the shopping cart reaches its healthy ‘threshold’ it would congratulate the customer.The feds want grocery store employees to serve as government “ambassadors” who can “redirect” food stampers toward healthy items by explaining the various incentive programs and nutritional information.
Michelle Obama wants to steer food stamp shoppers toward healthy eating with high tech shopping carts meeting healthy thresholds with the usual outcome.
Massachusetts Governor Deval Patrick (D) said that the Obama administration asked whether his state had facilities to house up to 1,000 illegal immigrant children at military bases or unused shopping malls. Mayors from surrounding communities, though, raised concerns about the strain on their budgets, while officials at the military bases complained that they had not even been informed that their facilities, which do not have room to house extra people on the weekends, were being considered. Mall security strained.
A Southern California couple who scaled back watering their lawn amid the state’s drought received a warning from the suburb where they live that they might be fined for creating an eyesore – despite emergency statewide orders to conserve. Michael Korte and Laura Whitney, who live near Los Angeles in Glendora, said on Thursday they received a letter from the city warning they had 60 days to green up their partially brown lawn or pay a fine ranging from $100 to $500. The letter, bearing the official symbols of Glendora and its police department, came the same week that statewide water regulators passed emergency drought restrictions for outdoor water use. Those regulations, to take effect this August, require cities to demand cutbacks in water use, and empower them to fine residents up to $500 for overwatering their lawns.”I don’t think it’s right for us to start pouring water into our lawn in the middle of July during a drought,” said Whitney. “We’re kind of in a quandary about what to do.